The Art of Strong Male Friendships

 

Power of the Pair is excited to celebrate and highlight some special and unique friendships.

Meet Derrick Crosby and Eric McClemore.

Derrick and Eric share with us from the male perspective of what friendship means to them.

How did you two actually meet?

They met ten years ago at a couples outing at a mutual friend’s house. They had a great time at this party and would continue to bump into each other at other functions.  It got to the point that if Eric did not show up to an event, I probably was considering not going. (Derrick)

How do you define friendship?

It is the ability to be yourself around a person, flaws and all and they in return can do the same with you. You have common ideas and goals. (Eric)

A friend will pray for you when you cannot. The only other people that will do that and not ask for anything in return are your family. (Derrick)

In today’s society, why it is so hard to find authentic friends?  

I think it is hard for people to find true friends because they don’t know what a friend is. We live in a world of instant gratification, where we don’t hold values of ourselves or others high on the list. We focus on the quantity and not the quality. Society’s definition of friendship is off. We go on social media and send friend requests to over 1000 people, searching for gratification by the number of likes or emojis on a post. We don’t hold friendship in a high prestige. (Derrick)

I was told once that if you take the fingers on your hand, count off the number of immediate members. The number of fingers left, is the number of friends you need. The rest are just associates. This motto stuck with me because I only had room for one person. So, I had to choose wisely. People don’t value friendship. We should hold the people that we let into our circle at a higher standard. Your friend is someone you bring over to your house, eat dinner with and bring around your family. Never lower your expectation. A real friend is not just somebody that will pray for you, a real friend will pray when you can’t pray. (Derrick)

People hide who they are out of fear, lack of trust, or alternative motives to deceive and this makes it difficult to be an authentic friend. (Eric)

Name two (2) qualities about your friend that you admire.

Derrick says that Eric is honest. He will speak the truth on everything. Eric is spirit led. He has his priorities in order. He loves God, so he can love his wife. He loves his wife, so his boys can see how a man is supposed to love.

Eric feels that Derrick’s two qualities are that he is very loyal and always has a positive outlook on things.

How do you handle conflict and or disagreements?

In ten years, we have never had any conflict. If so, I did not know about it. We are both in a period of our lives where if a conflict was to happen, we would just talk it out right then and there. There is no need to let it linger. (Derrick)

No conflict, but we don’t always agree. We handle it by listening to each other and being able to agree to disagree. (Eric)

Is there anything else you would like to share about your friend?

He is one of the most genuine individuals I have ever met, and possibly a long-lost cousin twice removed. (Eric)

My friend Eric is part of my family and I would not have it any other way. (Derrick)

To all of the guys out there it’s time to man up and make some friends. Strive to make friendship a priority in your life. This relationship is a great example of male friendship.

Thanks to Derrick and Eric for sharing.

Derrick was born in Bronx, New York, and grew up in Atlanta, Georgia. As a young kid, he knew that he wanted to become a teacher. He attended University of Georgia and received  a Bachelor’s Degree in Social Science Education in 1996. He is currently in his twentieth year of teaching and coaching at a high school.  He is married with two beautiful girls.

Eric was born in Vicksburg, Mississippi, lives in Atlanta, Georgia.  He is an IT specialist for a law firm.  He has been married for 12 years with two boys.

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One thought on “The Art of Strong Male Friendships

  1. I love seeing the diversity of sharing friendship from a man point of view. Great view points and
    I love the authenticity of their friendship. (Friends love you and stick with you thru faults and all). Great read!!

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